Hello creative peeps,
As promised, I’m writing about my new goals. The first one is centered around my hair. You may not know it but I’ve dealt with sudden hair loss since I was in the 10th or 11th grade (12 years or so). There are some hair styles that I just can’t wear because my hair doesn’t grow in certain places, even with added weave.
After struggling to hide it with extensions or my own hair, I decided to shave my head during the summer of 2009. That was the most freeing experience I’ve ever had. Now that I’ve got a hair goal of bra-strap length curly hair, it feels like everyone can see large portions of my scalp if I don’t wear my lace-front wig. But thankfully, I don’t rely on my hair for validation. I’ve already discovered that hair was never reason for my beauty. True beauty comes from within.
I have been natural since 2007, having cut my relaxed hair off when I turned 19. Over the next nine years, I have done a little of everything including flat ironing, kinky twisting, two strand twists, afro hawks, bantu knots and even shaving it all off. I even cut about four inches off of it three months ago after becoming frustrated with my overly dried ends. I didn’t know what the heck I was doing, I experimented with styles and products but never really understood how to handle my ‘locks’. So I did what any girl would do, I looked to books and youtube for advice and inspiration.
Man, there are so many resources out there and vlogs where women are tracking their hair growth, teaching others about the science behind hair and making tutorials. After watching hours of vids and reading three hair books, I think I have found the ideal way to work with my hair. The first step is to accept my hair the way it is, not the way it was or the way I saw someone else’s hair. The second step involves paying more attention to the way my hair reacts to things and putting more intentional care into keeping it moisturized and clean.
I plan to avoid heat tools, shampoo, and styles/products that dry my hair out. But I’ve decided to use more conditioner, hair lotions, oils and whatever else I think will help keep my hair from breaking. The plan is to do this until my hair reaches armpit length while it is still in its curly state (no pressed or blown out, etc.). I will do my best to put pics and a few vids about this in case anyone would like to see how I’m progressing. I will also be open and honest about the struggles that come with managing the thin areas of hair.
More goal explanations on the way!